****THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED****
The winner of yesterday’s book, Witch Fire, is Carol, who said, “No, they don’t affect my emotional well-being. I feel horrible for those directly involved, but I can’t let it take over my life.” Congrats! Please drop me an email, Carol! Anyabast (at) gmail.com
Today’s book……
A water witch, Isabelle Novak has always led a chaotic, nomadic existence. But her life spins out of control when her sister—her only friend and emotional anchor—is killed by a demon. Driven by grief and a desire for revenge, she turns her back on the Coven and the rede they hold sacred: Harm thee none…
When Isabelle first encounters Thomas Monahan, she’s running on pure rage and sorrow, channeling her pain into power—and trying to freeze the life out of a warlock she holds responsible for her sister’s death. Together, they form an uneasy alliance to hunt and destroy a demon of tremendous power. As head of the Coven, earth witch Thomas must thwart Isabelle’s dark impulses, but his very presence stirs deeper desires she never knew she had…
Read the first chapter and/or watch the book video.
Answer in the comments for a shot at a copy of Witch Blood. Don’t forget to check back tomorrow to see if you won.
Do you hold a grudge or forgive and forget? Are you a revenge seeker, or do you let transgressions against you pass away peacefully?
I’m embarrassed to say I do hold a grudge. I imagine lots of horrible things I would do to get my revenge if I were brave enough. But I’m too much of a chicken to do anything. Oh well, it probably makes for a more peaceful existence…
by Michelle March 25th, 2011 at 5:53 amI forgive and forget! Life is to short to hold grudges
by kristen my bookish fairy tale March 25th, 2011 at 6:19 amI almost always forgive and (forget) but sometimes that’s not the best way, I don’t like confrontations so I do everything to avoid that. Sometimes it can be good to confront someone it depends on the situation.
by Mysteriousrose March 25th, 2011 at 6:22 amIt totally depends on the situation but im usually a forgive and forget kind of person.
by Stacy (Urban Fantasy Investigations) March 25th, 2011 at 6:28 amCongrats, Carol!
If I’m very angry I hold a grudge and think of revenge but I don’t act on it. The only thing you can do is FORGIVE. I’ve learned this over the years.
by Mel K. March 25th, 2011 at 6:34 amI’m so happy I won Witch Fire. Thanks!
In general, I’m a forgive and forget person. Life is just too short to hold grudges.
by carol March 25th, 2011 at 7:01 amI’m both. I usually can forgive & forget. Depending on the situation, I may just decide its not worth my time to continue a relationship with someone who just doesn’t care about someone’s feelings or is just manipulatve. I just don’t have the energy to be mad all the time.though.
by Kimberly Flood March 25th, 2011 at 7:12 amIt takes to much energy to hold a grudge so I forgive and forget.
by Lindsey E March 25th, 2011 at 7:39 amI’m just too lazy to hold a grudge. It takes too much energy.
by Tamsyn March 25th, 2011 at 7:54 amI’m a grudge holder. I can’t seem to help it. I have a really hard time letting things go, even though I keep telling myself to.
by Stephanie N March 25th, 2011 at 9:16 amI am definitely a forgive & forget kind of person. Life is too short to hold onto a grudge. That’s not to say I let someone/anyone walk on me. I tend to pick my fights, then afterward shake it off and move on.
by Gail S March 25th, 2011 at 9:17 amI’ve seen family let a grudge drive such a huge wedge that they will never again speak to each other because one of them died…I can’t imagine how the other person feels 🙁
I always remember my Mother saying: Every dog has it’s day and every cat it’s night….meaning what goes around, comes around 😈 Fate/karma will kick your butt!
I dont hold grudges because it doesnt do me or the other party any good. Staying angry just makes me more miserable, so I say forgive, forget and move on 🙂
by Ashley A March 25th, 2011 at 9:30 amI’m a forgive and eventually forget kinda person.
by Kimberley Coover March 25th, 2011 at 9:54 amWell, if it’s family and friends..I forgive and eventually forget. But I do become hesitant with my heart and my trust. If it is random person or business….I may forgive but I will never forget.
I don’t let the situations like this control my life but I definitely learn from my experiences and try to go. Like the old addage: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
In the past, I have held grudges, but now I do not like to keep things building inside.
by Colleen March 25th, 2011 at 10:35 amDepends on the situation. Usually I just let it pass away if it isn’t too bad and just disconnected myself with that person. If it is on the soccer field I’m a revenge seeker.
by Kristina Ebert March 25th, 2011 at 10:38 amI’m a forgiver, I can’t hold a grudge for very long and even when I want revenge I don’t do anything. I hold back. But, if the thing the other person has done is mammoth then no forgiving from me. I can honestly say it’s only happened twice in my life and those 2 will never get forgiveness from me.
by leanne March 25th, 2011 at 11:09 amI usually forgive and forget.
by chey March 25th, 2011 at 11:21 amIt takes a lot to get me upset so I’m more likely to hold a grudge. It has to be something pretty horrible for it to get to me at that level so it ‘s not just going to be something that I could let slide.
by Mandy B. March 25th, 2011 at 11:42 amI forgive if the person is genuinely sorry.
by Cindy L March 25th, 2011 at 11:43 amI try and forgive and forget but only the first time. After that I hold a grudge so long that it dies of old age.
by Ilona March 25th, 2011 at 11:56 amI can hold a grudge..depends on the situation.I try to forgive and forget but it usually still ends up me holding a grudge.
by elaing8 March 25th, 2011 at 12:08 pmI forgive but don’t forget.
by Betul E. March 25th, 2011 at 12:13 pmHonestly I can and have been a major grudge holder in the past, I’m trying to get better at it though.
I’ve been trying to learn how to forgive and forget, it also depends on the situation. My mom says that I have a memory like a steel trap when it comes to certain things.
I think I used to be the kind of person that would sort of just turn the other cheek if a wrong was done to me but I’ve definitely changed. I very rarely take revenge if given the opportunity.
I like I said though I’m trying to embrace a forgive and forget sort of lifestyle.
by Gabrielle J. March 25th, 2011 at 12:15 pmOh I hold grudges. For years. My friend tells me that it’s bad for my soul, but I can’t just forgive and forget.
by Casey H March 25th, 2011 at 12:28 pmSometimes it’s hard to forgive and forget and so I do hold a grudge, but I never look to seek revenge.
by Jane March 25th, 2011 at 12:45 pmThere are certain things and people that I can not easily forgive and I am unable to let go my anger. There are just some things you can not forgive. On little things yeah it’s easy to forgive and forget.
by Raonaid Luckwell March 25th, 2011 at 1:19 pmWell, I move on from things, but I forget NOTHING if you piss me off… I know that’s bad, but I gotta be me. 😉
by Julie March 25th, 2011 at 1:26 pmIm Italian we rarely forgive and we NEVER forget. Lol! I don’t hold a grudge tho I let the universe take care of it. Im a firm believer in karma. It may take 10 years but they’ll get back what they put out into.the universe. 🙂
by amanda Pizzolanti March 25th, 2011 at 1:54 pmI try to rationalize why people do things that bother me, that way I can come up with an excuse to forgive them. But, if people are continually nasty, I try to stay away from them so I can forget about it. Otherwise it’s just my blood preasure that goes up & I hurt myself. Also I really want to believe in karma & that the really nasty people will eventually get their comeuppance.
by Diane March 25th, 2011 at 3:39 pmI usually forgive and forget. If what the other person did was really hurtful, I may distance myself from them…but I won’t harbor revenge plans.
Life is much too short for that kind of stress.
🙂
Valerie
by Valerie March 25th, 2011 at 3:45 pmin Germany
depends on what happened but I tend to hold a grudge don’t ask me why it’s alway been that way I think it goes all the way back to my childhood. but I do believe in karma what comes around goes around.
by Dalane March 25th, 2011 at 3:47 pmI try to be a forgive-and-forget person, but at the same time, I don’t necessarily want to reopen myself to the chance of being hurt in exactly the same way again… So a forgive and live somewhat cautiously?
by Fedora March 25th, 2011 at 4:17 pmI don’t usually hold a grudge. That takes too much time and energy. Of course, I won’t be your best bud, but I won’t snub you either.
by Janet H March 25th, 2011 at 4:25 pmI would like to think I don’t hold grudges but I do hold a little. But I don’t do revenge, I don’t have the guts for something like that.
by JoAnna B March 25th, 2011 at 4:31 pmI used to be able to hold a grudge….then I started writing and channel (cough, cough, splutter) the grudges in a different direction…..
If a situation warrants an “answer” of some sort and my first reaction would be grudge-like or vengeful, then I try to step away from the situatiton until I can look at it without heat.
*wg* Sometimes it takes a while for me to be able to do that, but I have become able to look at situations from at least two perspectives (makes it interesting living inside my head at times, but there you go).
by Yvonne B. March 25th, 2011 at 4:35 pmI forgive but don’t forget. I won’t haunt anyone, it just seems that i feel the hurt for a long long time.
by Diane Sadler March 25th, 2011 at 4:51 pmI give people lots of chances but once you hit my threshold I will no longer forgive. That being said, I don’t hold grudges and I don’t seek revenge. That, in my opinion, is wasted energy. Plus, it just makes you feel bad.
by Jen B. March 25th, 2011 at 5:21 pmi have to say that it depends on what was done to me or the ones i love. if it is some small or little thing i let it slide and get over it quickly but if i or the people i love are hurt or taken advantage of badly i can carry a grudge for i long time. I KNOW it’s very immature but that’s just the way i’m built.
by tammy ramey March 25th, 2011 at 5:33 pmi can forgive but not forget. its hard to when you have been trampled on and lied to so many times. your back can only withstand so many knives in it before you bleed to death. but i also wont be mean to the person. i just hope they find the true path and see their wrong doings. i bite when in to much pain
by ruth cardoza March 25th, 2011 at 6:13 pmI usually forgive and forget I dont sweat the small things I believe in karma .That said if its something big I have been known to hold a grudge .On the outside it will appear Ive let it go but given the chance to help someone who severely wronged me get whats coming I will help out lol.
by wanda flanagan March 25th, 2011 at 7:04 pmForgiving is part of my daily life. I take care of my elderly parents and I cant take things to heart. My mother is in the beginning stages of dementia . The things shes says and does can break a person. I have very broad shoulders these days and have to let things go to allow for normalcy. I love her dearly and to hold a grudge would would make a difficult situation unbearable!To dwell on things would destroy us.
by Jean Doucette March 25th, 2011 at 8:27 pmI Never hold a Grudge for very long with my Family with others maybe longer some I Never talk to again.But Family you have to Live with forever.
by Stacey Smith March 25th, 2011 at 10:06 pmI hope you don’t hold a Grudge for got About this Contest for a Few days or maybe just one and then the power was out life is so hard to remember everything in it.
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by Stacey Smith March 25th, 2011 at 10:15 pmsasluvbooks(at)yahoo(dot)com
I have a really hard time holding a grudge. I’ve tried and it just doesn’t work lol. so i forgive a lot but it’s harder to forget, i just don’t let it bother me. not that you guys care but a perfect example was when i was 3 months pregnant i walked in on my boyfriend (babys dad) and my niece (who was a year younger than me) needless to say he became an ex. but she ended up having to move in with me cause her mom kicked her out and she’s still one of my close friends. not as close as we were but still close. i’d trust her not to do it again and if she did, honestly i’d probably forgive her again. i’m told i trust to much and to easy but i’d rather trust people and have them lose the trust than not trust anyone
by Sabrina March 25th, 2011 at 10:16 pmInitially I think a situation to death, until finally I let it slip away. I make my peace. Some transgressions I don’t forgive but I do let them slide. I move on with my life.
by Mary Preston March 26th, 2011 at 12:19 amHolding a grudge takes to much energy, I’d rather talk to the person I’m mad at.
by Lauren March 26th, 2011 at 1:14 amI used to hold grudges but I learned after not speaking to my dad for twn years that holding a grude not only hurts the person you are mad at…it also hurts you.
So I am quick to forgive these days…That does not mean I am willing to let people walk all over me and I will let them know they have displeased me but I don’t hold a grudge anymore. They either stop doing what I don’t like or I accept that’s just the way they are and move on.
by Mary Kirkland March 26th, 2011 at 9:46 amI usually always forgive, but sometimes forgetting is very hard to do.
by June M. March 26th, 2011 at 10:41 amI’m a don’t sweat the small stuff kind of person, unless you do something to someone I love. In that case,I can hold a grudge.
by Erika March 26th, 2011 at 10:52 amI forgive but I don’t foret. While I don’t actively seek revenge I don’t put myself much at risk of a recurrence of a person’s poor treatment, again.
by Little Lamb Lost March 26th, 2011 at 4:25 pmWell it depends. I try hard not to hold a grudge or look for revenge but sometimes that is very hard. I know it’s in my best interest to just let things go so that is what I do for the most part. But even though I forgive I don’t generally forget so if it was a friendship depending on what was done-it is most likely over.
Kelly
by Kelly Thrash March 27th, 2011 at 11:20 amkittykelly28 @ hotmail.com
When something terrible happens to me, it tends to hit me hard. Eventually, though I just work to put it behind me. I may not feel the same about the person or people or did whatever it was, but I try to move on.
by Ann G March 27th, 2011 at 11:50 amI am usually “a forgive and forget” kind of person but when I decided to hold a grudge (and that’s only when person does unthinkable) it’s there forever. I don’t forgive it. So I try not to get mad too often 🙂
by Fran March 27th, 2011 at 11:52 amI usually forgive. Sometimes it takes a little while but I don’t seek revenge ever. I believe in what goes around comes around.
by Viki S. March 27th, 2011 at 12:50 pmI’m usually a forgive and forget type of person, unless they do it again. Then I tend to cut them completely out of my life. I’ve found that that allows me to “punish” them as most people can’t stand to be totally ignored, it doesn’t allow them to “hurt” me again, and I’m completely satisfied with this non verbal, non combative action. I’m generally not a revenge seeker either–I just totally ignore them.
by Lisa Richards March 27th, 2011 at 2:27 pmI do hold a grudge, but I’m not really a revenge person. I just, you know, pretend the person no longer exists 😉
by Chelsea B. March 27th, 2011 at 2:34 pmI don’t hold a grudge and I always do my best to forgive. But, sometimes it’s really hard to forget.
by Kate N. (Yzhabella) March 27th, 2011 at 3:39 pmIt depends on what went on, I do hold on to a grudge for a couple of things that I won’t go into. But mostly I forgive and learn from that mistake.
by SheilaF March 27th, 2011 at 8:23 pmI am not a person who will hold a grudge or ever seek revenge. I can’t say that I ever forget but I do forgive. When things happen there is no way to change the outcome. So its more a live and learn from experience.
by Stephanie Fry-Thomas March 27th, 2011 at 9:49 pmIt all depends on what its about..Normally I don’t hold grudges..I let things go, its not worth hanging on to.. It just stresses you out everytime you think about it orif someone brings it up then the pain starts all over again.. I just let the person who did it suffer with it. They have no idea what I’m going to do so I don’t do anything.. Thats worse then anything I can think to do…I wll stay away from that person,,why give them another chance ….
by Heidi Shafer-Wilson March 28th, 2011 at 11:20 am